Words I Wish I Never Heard: Perseveration

Poodle (our favorite nickname for our six-year-old girl) has tumbling class every Friday at 5:00. She is a very flexible, high-energy little sprite, and she loves the chance to jump, roll, run, and play with other kids her age. The place where she goes is an easy fifteen-minute drive from our home, and she’s been there a number of times. Still, the following sequence of events happens just about every Friday afternoon.

4:15 p.m.

Poodle: Mommy, I have to get changed for tumbling. I don’t want to be late.

Katie: We’ve got lots of time, Poodle. I’m in the middle of something. I’ll help you in a few minutes.

Poodle: No, Mom. I don’t want to be late. You have to help me now.

Katie: Hang on just a couple more minutes. We won’t be late. I promise.

Poodle (her voice quavering a bit): Okay. I just don’t want to be late.

4:20 p.m.

Katie: Okay, Poodle, let’s get you dressed. Get your leotard from your room and bring it down here.

Poodle: I can’t do that! The boys will see me.

Katie: No they won’t. We’ll go in my bedroom and close the door.

Poodle: Are you sure? I don’t want the boys to see me naked.

Katie: I promise I’ll close the door. I’ll even lock it if you want.

Poodle: Ohhhh, Mommy, I don’t know. I don’t want the boys to see me naked.

Katie: I promise they won’t. Now get down here so we can get you changed.

Poodle (nervously): Okay. I don’t want the boys to see me naked. You’re sure we won’t be late?

Katie: I promise.

4:25 p.m.

Katie: Go get your Crocs so we can get going.

Poodle: I don’t know where they are. Let’s just go. I don’t want to be late.

Katie: It’s okay, Poodle. We have lots of time. Go and find your Crocs.

Poodle: No, Mommy. I don’t want to be late. I can’t be late. They won’t like me if I’m late. Let’s go!

Katie: I don’t want you going outside without any shoes. It’s raining, and it’s chilly. Find your Crocs, and we’ll get going.

Poodle: Please, Mommy! I don’t want to be late!

Katie: Tumbling is only 15 minutes away, and we have more than 35 minutes to get there. We’ll be fine.

Poodle: No, Mommy, no. We need to go now. I don’t want to be late!

Katie: Fine! Get in the car. I guess I can carry you into the tumbling studio.

Poodle: Okay. I don’t want to be late.

4:30 p.m.

Poodle (wringing her hands): Mom? How long before we get there? I don’t want to be late.

Katie: Fifteen minutes.

Poodle: Is that enough time?

Katie: Yes, it is. We’ll get there with fifteen minutes to spare.

Poodle: Are you sure? I don’t want to be late.

Katie: Yes, I’m sure. Look how far we’ve gone already. We’ll be there with lots of time.

Poodle (suspiciously): Okay, if you say so.

4:33 p.m.

Poodle: Are we getting close? I don’t want to be late.

Katie: Yes, we’re getting close.

Poodle: Will we be there on time?

Katie: We’ll be early.

Poodle (twisting a lock of her hair): Are you sure? I don’t want to be late.

Katie: Yes, I’m sure.

4:40 p.m.

Poodle: When does tumbling start?

Katie: In twenty minutes.

Poodle: Will we be there in time? I don’t want to be late.

Katie: I told you already, we’ll be early. We’re almost there.

Poodle: We’re not going to be late, are we?

Katie: No, we’ll be early.

4:44 p.m.

Poodle: Are we going to be on time? I can’t be late. They don’t like it when I’m late.

Katie: Look up there. See that traffic light? The studio is just beyond that light. We’ll be there as soon as the light turns green.

Poodle: No we won’t. We’re going to be late.

Katie: Don’t worry, Poodle. When the light turns green, we’ll be there.

Poodle: You’re going to go as soon as the light turns green?

Katie: Yes, I will. Then we’ll be at tumbling.

Poodle: Ohhhh, how much time do we have now? Are we going to be late?

Katie: We have fifteen minutes. All we have to do is cross this intersection. Then we’ll be there.

Poodle: Are you sure? I don’t want to be late.

Katie: Yes, I’m sure, Poodle. We’ll be there in less than a minute.

4:46 p.m. [The light turns green.]

Poodle: How much time now, Mommy?

Katie: Fourteen minutes.

Poodle: Are we going to get there in time?

Katie: Yes, we’re pulling into the parking lot right now.

Poodle: We won’t be late?

Katie: No, we have lots of time.

4:47 p.m. [Katie carries her, shoeless, into the studio.]

Poodle: We’re not late, are we?

Katie: No, we’re not.

Poodle: That was close, wasn’t it?

Katie: I guess so.

Poodle: Okay. Are you sure Daddy is going to be on time to pick me up?

Katie: <sigh> Yes, I’m sure.

One thought on “Words I Wish I Never Heard: Perseveration

  1. I usually say to kids, you know the answer to that question. Let’s just sing songs, count license plates, or (fill in distractor activity) so that you won’t have the worries! Otherwise, you don’t alter the OCD loop and it just gets stronger! But, such a kind and patient mom 🙂

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